You've Started Your Solo
Motherhood Journey.
So Why Do You Keep
Freezing?
You've built a career.
Made bold moves.
Handled pressure.
So why does this feel different?
The Mama Identity Shift Circle is a 4 week container for high achieving women who are tired of over thinking, people pleasing, and postponing their life - and are ready to feel calm, clear and confident with motherhood on their own terms
If compliments make you
uncomfortable, this matters
You’ve achieved a lot.
But when someone says,
“You’re incredible,”
“You’d be such a great mum,”
“You’ve handled everything so well” you brush it off.
Laugh.
Change the subject.
That’s not humility.
That’s a nervous system that learned it wasn’t safe to fully receive.
Somewhere along the way, you learned to earn love.
To be the capable one.
The good girl.
The high performer.
But solo motherhood?
That’s not earned.
It’s chosen.
And choosing something just for you
without approval, without a partner, without a traditional script, can feel exposing.
That’s why you freeze.
Why Mindset Work Isn't Enough and What Actually Works
You've read the books. You've tried affirmations and positive thinking. And yet... the fear keeps coming back. The 3am spirals return. The decision feels just as heavy.
Here's why: Your brain only holds about 5% of your processing capacity. The other 95% lives in your body. When your mind gets overwhelmed, and as a high-achiever, it does, it stores the stress, the fear, the shame in your tissues, your nervous system, your gut. That's where the real blocks live.
Think of it like a river. Each unprocessed trauma, each moment of stress, each time you swallowed your truth, it's like dropping a small rock into the stream. One rock? The water flows around it. But when the rocks pile up, the river slows. The chi is disturbed. The energy can't move. And you stay stuck, no matter how much you think your way through it.
Your nervous system doesn't speak the language of logic. All the positive thinking in the world won't clear those rocks. This is somatic work. We're not just talking about your feelings, we're teaching your body that it's safe to let the river flow again. Because lasting change doesn't happen in your head. It happens when your body finally feels safe enough to let go. Step into the identity you were made for
I've Been Where You Are.
I became a solo mum by choice at 40.
I know this path, not intellectually, but in my body.
When I first had my son, I was functioning… but disconnected. I had pushed down the judgment, the shame, the fear of “not doing it the traditional way.” I didn’t process it, I just powered through.
It wasn’t until five years ago that I began doing the deeper nervous system and identity work. And everything shifted. I now feel proud of my journey. Grounded. Regulated. Clear.
I’m also one of eight children. I grew up in a big family full of movement, dynamics, personality, tribe. I understand community deeply. I understand what it means to belong, and what it feels like when you don’t.
That early experience shaped the way I hold women now. I don’t just create programs. I naturally create spaces where you feel supported, witnessed and regulated together.
Introducing: The Mama Identity Shift Circle
A 4-week , trauma- informed container for women on the solo motherhood path who keep freezing at critical decision points. We don't just give you more information or more planning tools. We help you regulate your nervous system so you can finally move through the gates that have been keeping you stuck. You've created waves in every area of your life so it's time to use that same momentum to claim mother hood
What's included
✓ 4 x 90 Minute Group Zoom Calls
Weekly live sessions with up to 10 women
✓ 4 Weeks of WhatsApp Support
Daily access to your circle and Betty
✓ 1 x 60 Minute Private Session
One-on-one support with Betty
✓Pre- Training Videos
Short prep videos before each call
Week 1: Stop the 3am Spiral
You're exhausted from the sleepless nights and the constant mental loop of "what ifs."
✓ Understand why your body is in overdrive and how to bring it down
✓ Connect with women who truly understand your journey, share your story in a safe container where you don't have to explain yourself
✓ Learn a 5-minute nervous system tool that actually works (not meditation, not positive thinking)
✓ Sleep better and think clearer by the end of Week 1
Week 2: Catch Yourself Before You Crash
You know the pattern: research → comparison → self-judgment → more fear.
✓ Recognise your next spiral moment and how to interrupt it
✓ Learn to recognise fear not as a problem but as helpful information
✓ Get a framework for noticing dysregulation and shifting back to clarity
✓ LIVE role play practise to real life comments supported by nervous system regulation
Week 3: Say It Out Loud Without Shaking
The fear of judgment is keeping you small. You're rehearsing conversations in your head.
✓ Create a personal anchor statement you can return to when the shame voice gets loud
✓ Practice saying "I'm choosing to become a solo mum" out loud, in front of other women
✓ Stop asking for permission and start owning your path
Week 4: Set the Damn Date
Enough planning. Enough research. Enough "just one more thing."
✓ Apply everything you've learned to real logistics: donor selection, appointments, first-year plan
✓ Make decisions from a regulated state, not a panicked one
✓ Leave with a date on the calendar and a concrete next step—not "someday," this day
What Happens Next
1. Apply + Connection Call
We speak 1:1 to make sure this space is the right fit for you.
2. Confirmation + Onboarding
Once accepted, you’ll receive:
• A client intake form
• An informed consent + confidentiality agreement
• Clear details about how the container works
Everything shared inside this space is confidential and held with care.
3. Preparation Begins
In the weeks leading up to our start date, you’ll receive short preparation emails so
your system begins settling before we even meet.
You don’t arrive overwhelmed.
You arrive grounded.
4. WhatsApp Circle Opens
Approximately 3–5 days before we begin, you’ll be invited into our private WhatsApp
group to meet the other women and begin connecting.
Then we begin.
What Women Are Saying
Betty was the OG of solo motherhood by choice. She was the first person I knew that had a baby without a partner and I was always inspired by that. It opened my eyes to the fact that you don’t need anyone else to become a mum if that is what you want to do.
A few years later- I still had never met my person/husband/love of my life (despite thinking that would be inevitable in my future). I did know I wanted to be a mum. Life suddenly felt a bit pointless and had no direction/meaning a little bit. So decided it was the perfect time to have a baby on my own. I knew I had my entire life to find love but a baby unfortunately has a timeline of opportunity. So I reached out to Betty with all my questions. She was so open about everything and totally encouraging and supportive. To be honest I didn’t have any doubts or fears about the decision to do it on my own- I had seen firsthand with Betty how it turned out and I’m sure that helped. I didn’t have the money to do IVF so just sourced my own donors. These days there are so many apps out there for this, making it so much easier than you would think.
I am now so lucky to call myself a mum and have a beautiful 4 year old son all to myself! I love that I alone get to make the call on allllll the decisions- probably the best thing about being a solo mum. Total freedom to travel, live, raise my child exactly how I want.
To anyone in a similar situation- go re-write your life’s blueprint. Although it is not the life I originally imagined, it is just as amazing having a baby on my own and definitely better than missing out on motherhood altogether. I now have the love of my life (my son) and now he is a little older, maybe the universe will let me meet my adult love too.
Your Investment
$497
Payment plans available
Next Cohort Starts March 2026
Limited to 10 women
✓ 4 x 90 minute group Zoom calls with Betty and your circle
✓ 1 x 60- Minute private session with Betty
✓ 4 weeks of WhatsApp support with your circle and Betty
✓ Pre-training videos to prepare for each call
✓ LIVE role play practise responding to real life comments, supported by nervous system regulation
✓ Practical nervous system regulation tools you can use for life
Questions about payment plans? Reach out and we'll work something out that supports you.
The Wait is Over
You don't need more research. you don't need more planning. You don't need to wait for the "perfect" moment. You need a regulated nervous system so you can finally thaw the freeze points that have been keeping you stuck. That's what the Mama Identity Shift Circle gives you
Ready to become her now?
Book your spot below
Frequently Asked Questions
How many women are in the circle?
Each cohort is limited to 10 women. This intimate size ensures everyobe gets personal attention, deep connection, and the safety to share authentically.
Do i get direct access to you?
Yes! You'll have a 4 weeks of WhatsApp access to me and your circle, plus a private 60 - minute one - on - one session with me during the program.
What platform do you use for the calls?
We can use Zoom for our weekly 90 - minute group calls. All calls are recorded, so if you miss one, you can catch up.
What if I can't make a live call?
Life happens! All calls are recorded and available for replay. You'll still have access to the WhatsApp group and your private session with me.
Is this right for me if I haven't fully decided yet?
This program is for women who are seriously considering solo motherhood but feel stuck in fear, overthing, or delay. If you're curious but not committed, this might not be the right time. But if you know deep down this is your path and you just need support to move forwar, this is for you.
I’m already overwhelmed. Will this add more to my plate?
No. Solo Motherhood is designed to simplify, not complicate. The tools and support are created to fit into your real life, not add pressure. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need support.
What makes Solo Motherhood different from other parenting programs?
Most parenting programs focus on the child. Solo Motherhood focuses on YOU, the mother.
Because when you feel emotionally supported, regulated, and confident, your child benefits naturally. This is about strengthening the foundation, you.
How do I know now is the right time?
If you’re reading this and something inside you feels seen, that’s your sign.
Is it selfish to choose solo motherhood?
No. Choosing motherhood intentionally and responsibly is not selfish. What matters is preparation, stability, and commitment to your child’s wellbeing.
You’ve done the thinking.
You’ve done the research.
You know this matters.
If you’re ready for your nervous system to catch up with the decision you’ve already made, this is your next step.
Clarity.
Calm.
A date in the calendar.
Apply for a free connection call, and let’s see if this space is the right fit for you.